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Tag: raising teens and tweens

On A Long Winter’s Night

And the snow began to fall…aaaaand, fall…school was closed…the next day, too. Then, ALL the lights went out.

"GAAAAAAH!"

Aaaaand, DAYUM, it was dark.

"Don't NOBODY move!"

The sort of inky gloom that makes a person lose all sense of good grammar, too.

"Do we have any candles?"

Is the Pope, well, whatever.

[click, click, click, click]

"I'm cold…I have to go to the bathroom…I'm scared…I'm hungry!"

It's hard, you know? Living in the suburbs.

"Whatever you do, do NOT open that fridge!"

Minutes. Hours. Days. Weeks. Time stops, in the dark.

"Okay, who blew out the candles?"

Like moths to a flame, they just can't help themselves.

"Are we gonna freeze…can we flush the toilet…are we gonna die…do we have enough food?

[click, click, click, click]

"Everyone, close your eyes, take a deep breath and relax."

[whoosh]

"Okay, who blew out the candles?"

Honestly, I don't know how the pioneers did it.

"Um…wait…wait…I got one!"

It's hard, you know? Playing charades…in the dark, inky, gloom.

"No, it's MY turn!"

Minutes. Hours. Days. Weeks. Can cabin fever kill?

[flash, blink, blink, zap]

"POWER'S BACK!"

Aaaand, DAYUM, just in time, too.

"QUICK, turn the lights out AGAIN!"

[ZAP!]

"GAAAAAAH!"

Of course, pioneer parents probably would have agreed that playing head games on your kids is really quite fun.

"Don't NOBODY move!"

Or, perhaps if they had really good timing AND quick access to the circuit breakers, they probably would…I mean.

FWAHMP!

"Okay, who blew one?"

Stupid snowpocalypse!

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February 13, 2010
Love Thursday: Quiet Time

Love is….finding a quiet moment.

Happy Love Thursday, everyone. May you find yourself…a little quiet time.

If all else fails, tell your kids (or, whoever) that you are giving yourself a time-out, today.

‘Cawse, I said so!

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February 11, 2010
It’s Called Word-of-Mouth AND Drive-by Mothering

Can you judge a mother by her shopping cart…in MY case, ABSOLUTELY…go right ahead…I triple-dog dare you!

If you were to ask me, years ago — before blocking the MTV channel and searching for un-holey jeans at Hot Topic ruled my world — what I disliked most about being a mom, I would have answered, without hesitation:

"Answering to other moms!"

Although, having to explain myself…to anyone…is STILL really hard — especially, without relying on cocktails, or the use of visual aids — living a fishbowl existence and swimming along with the same old school of thought, day after day, is even harder.

"Oh, just LOOK at how SHE is dressed…I would NEVER let my little Muffy wear black, EVUH!"

No flaming. I understand. Maybe even have told Buffy (you know, Muffy's mom) that we went through something similar. However, today, I would totally see Buffy's point and perhaps raise her an opinion…

"Oh, she's just expressing herself."

…or, two.

"But, absolutely NO belly button piercings until at least 17!"

Point being (I really do have one, I think) I find myself relying A LOT more on, you know, what OTHER moms are saying.

"Hi Liz, just wanted to let you know that, you know, cookie orders are due."

Yeah, it's girl scout cookie order time (AGAIN!) and I knew, that my youngest girl's leader knew, that I was supposed to hand those in, like, a week ago.

"I hate being THAT mom!"

[silence]

Because, my father-in-law drops Hope off and I don't even see, talk, or hear anything from any of the girl scout families, anymore, since picking up the afternoon/evening shift at work.

"You know, the one who forgets EVERYTHING!?!?"

[very awkward silence]

"I'll drop it off, during pick ups, today."

Even though, I don't really know whether I'm dropping off, or picking up, unless another mom, you know, texts me.

"Hey, isn't that my girl scout leader's car?"

Why, yes, yes it was AND she's stopping to talk to me…uh-oh…right here…in the middle…of traffic!

[rolls down driver's side window]

"Heh, good timing, did you stop by my house, yet?"

Then, I realized something (besides the fact that my oldest must have put the cookie order into my tote, I mean) after 16 years of raising kids (and killer dust bunnies) it doesn't matter.

[passes cookie order through window]

"Here ya' go!"

I still have NOT learned to, you know, get over myself!

"Well, that worked out well, didn't it?"

At the end of the day, no matter how crazy it gets, or how absolutely awful I feel, somehow, it really does NOT matter.

"I'll be seeing you."

At least, my being able to admit that…YES!…I am THAT mom….hopefully, helps other moms see that, no matter, we ALL come together, in the end.

"Hopefully, sometime soon!"

Aaaand, if not, don't worry, I'm on YOUR side AND I'm pretty sure, with my help, other folks will understand, too – especially, if you ARE a mother!

[fast-forward to CVS, last night]

"Muffy is at her Valentine's Day party at girl scouts, tonight!"

It's like the mother of all barking chains, really.

"Wow, well, Hope has hers tomorrow, so I guess I'd better check my email, then, huh?"

Stupid girl scouts!

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February 9, 2010
Wordless Wednesday: 365 Days – Just Another Sick Day

Another snapshot courtesy of my 365 Days microblog project — where I'm taking a self-imposed timeout, every day, to post wordless (you're welcome!)

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February 3, 2010
Writing Challenge #8: Plot – Let Sleeping Kids AND Their Perceptual Parents, Lie

This is part of a writing challenge at {W}rite-Of-Passage, a community of bloggers who are looking to get back to the writing part of blogging and brainchild of my friend, Mrs. Flinger. Today’s challenge was to write a post with a clear plot – the point in which you are trying to make (I know, good luck with that one, right?)

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It’s Napalooza at Mama’s house (stupid camera!)

Yesterday, my husband Garth [not his real name] and I made plans to take the kids to visit with my parents, who are both dealing with difficult health issues at the moment, for a turkey dinner.

What? I clean. My mother cooks when she’s frustrated and, well, seeing as the kids haven’t had a decent meal since I started working, who am I to argue, right?

“I’ll bring the green bean casserole!”

Seeing as, I am NOT a total shitehead, either, I also offered to cook the turkey, too!

“No…nuh-uh…that’s okay.”

Apparently, the kids have been talking with my mother…about me…too.

“So, how are you guys…”

Aaaand, the flood gates opened.

“Your father probably needs a pacemaker and those 3 knee replacements I had, didn’t work!”

Apparently, my parents had 2 emergency medical visits, last week and, NO, they didn’t call me.

“We didn’t want to worry you!”

So, of course, by Sunday morning, I was VERY worried!

“I don’t care if you ARE still naked!”

Aaaand, annoyed — because, when taking showers, some kids have to be reminded to, you know, actually GET IN THE SHOWER!

“WE ARE LEAVING IN 5 MINUTES!!!”

Long story, short (you’re welcome!) as much as the kids ADORE my parents (me, too) and love visiting with them (sort of) it is never an easy trip.

“Move your seat up…I’m squished…move over…I…can’t…breathe!!!”

In fact, just getting in the car is enough to drive a sane person to, you know, walk the 44 miles.

“ENOUGH!!!”

When it comes to head-spinning, Linda Blair has got nothin’ on me!

“Next person who speaks, gets grounded for a week!”

Long story, short [don’t mention it] you coulda cut the tension with a spoon and, well, at this point, my husband and I weren’t speaking, to each other, either.

“What’s wrong?”

I don’t know what it is.

“C’mon, tell me.”

Ever since I was little, I could NEVER lie to my mother.

“Nothing, really!”

Until, at least, around dessert time.

“I don’t…[sniff]…know…[snort]…what to do!“

What? Some people go to therapy. Hungarians cry. Right into our desserts.

“I know, me either!”

So, we allowed the flood gates to open, once more — we sat, we talked, we cried, we hugged, got over the fact that, you know, sometimes life just has to happen and there was peace in the dining room, once more!

Until.

Napalooza 2

It was time to wake the kids.

“I don’t WANNA go home!”

Really, can you blame them?

“There’s always President’s weekend!”

Aaand, I bet that YOU don’t even have to guess real hard how my mother knew that the kids would be off…and willing to sleep over…that weekend…TOO.

Other folks participating, today:

Write on!

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February 1, 2010
You Can Haz “Flawz!”

See that really pretty girl, up there? Well, her name is Caitlin Crosby and she is a singer-songwriter in her twenties.

Yeah, I don't remember what it was like…either.

However, raising 1 tween and 2 teenage girls (no, I haven't forgotten about the boy) who fight with image issues, as early as the 2nd grade (yeah, I know!) aaaand then…every…blessed…day…for the rest of their lives…well, it IS slowly (and painfully) coming back to me.

"Oh great, another pop tart!"

Being a mom (or dad) is hard (understatement of the year) but, IMO, parenting teens and tweens, at an age when female performers are advertising "sexy" as the new "sixteen," or "sexteen," if you will, well, my life IS downright rock-like.

Then again, us parenting-types haz flawz…too…aaaand, I'm not just talking about sagging breasts, or laugh lines, that continue running down, right to my butt, either!

[allows time for a mental etch-a-sketch]

Caitlin created a home-made and moving video highlighting all people from all walks of life embracing (and loving) who they are.

So, while I try to convince a couple of appliance delivery dudes that, "YES, you got the right house," and "I'LL MAKE IT FIT, DAMMIT!" please feel to grab a beverage and take a moment to watch (and listen to) FLAWZ:

Color me optimistic (or a little naive, even) but, I really like the message in Caitlin's new video (not to mention, her bangin' voice) and, well, maybe, juuuuust maybe, there IS hope for us parenting-types, too!

FLAWZ and all!

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January 29, 2010
This Ones Tricky, You Have to Use Imaginary Numbers, Like Eleventeen

I give up, you figure them out…

When I told my husband, Garth [not his real name] I was pregnant with our youngest, it didn't come as much of a surprise, really; not like the first time, I mean, when he closed his eyes, fell back on the bed, grabbed his head (with both hands) and sort of just laid there, for a few minutes, moaning.

We had already signed the contract on this house (less full, at the time) and then came Valentine's Day and, well, he WAS there when it ALL happened.

Three more (+) signs, later:

"Well, at least, no one will have to sit alone, on the rollercoaster."

Then, all of a sudden, our lives turned into one big Dr. Seuss book:

One Kid, two kids,

Meh, what's one more kid

Some have brown eyes, except their brother

Don't ask me why

Go ask your mother.

Little did we know, all those days (and nights) ago, how prophetic my husband words would be.

GAH! Now, I'm speaking in rhyme? Hang on, this will be real quick.

[slams head on laptop]

There, that did the trick…I mean…where was I?

Rollercoasters? Feh, they're for wussies. Raising tweens and teens? Best get your barf bags ready, now. Not only will they make you eat your words…

"I will never YELL at my kids, ever."

They'll make you chew on them a bit, first, before spitting them all over your sensible shoes, too!

"HANG UP YOUR WET TOWELS, DAMMIT!!!"

Wet towels. Tragic. I know.

[sound of puking]

I got sick, this week…NO, I'M NOT PREGNANT!

[knocking on wood until knuckles bleed]

I know, because I got my period at the same time (you're welcome!) it's how I roll and, well, best get your heating pads ready, now. Being a woman sucks. Being a woman of a certain age, sucks wet poodle.

"Go back to bed, Mah!"

It was already dark, the kids were ALL home from school (thank you, Carpooling Mom!) but, it was the quiet that woke me.

"Buh, dinner…breakfast dishes still…I gotta go…um."

Stupid analgesics.

"Your sick, we got this."

Aaaand, with a slightly confused and saddened heart, I turned toward the stairs, thinking that perhaps it was good that the kids were learning to take care of themselves (jinx) and slowly climbed closer to the realization that, one day, they won't be needing me, at all.

"Sheesh…she's like a kid, sometimes."

Judging by the frequency of my bathroom stops, I imagine it will be real soon, too.

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January 8, 2010
Best Blog Pics of 2009

January 2009: Old House, Has Good Bones

In the beginning…no, wait…let's not go that far back (you're welcome!) I'm entering my 7th year of blogging and was in the habit of embedding photos long before it was, you know, cool (shuttup!) as inspiration for that day's (or, week's) blog post.

A picture's worth a thousand words (i.e. Worldess Wednesdays = a quick cure for writer's block) right?

My friend Melisa (With one S) posted a month-by-month list of her favorite posts (she got the idea from Scary Mommy) aaaaand, since 2009 was, well, you know (ICK!) I'm focusing on the photos that represent the "best" of what this here blog is all about.

Sort of — ready?

(more…)

January 1, 2010
Nearly Wordless Wednesday: When You Give an 8 Year Old a Camera

No, Santa didn't bring her a camera (sheesh, I'm still waiting for mine!) however, this IS what happens, when your kids are home for the holidays and you, however…you know…are NOT (stupid work!) and one of them just happens to find the one and only camera in the house and, you know, it was just sitting there…on your desk.

It's some sort of soup, I think.

GAAAAAAAAAH!!!!

Let there be peace…a lot!

You know, mom's gonna kill you for using her camera, without asking, right?

No, she isn't, 'cawse she thinks I'm cute [insert 1st picture, here]

John Cena, I think!

You're not mad, I mean, you like John Cena, right momma?

Morale of the Story: No, I'm not mad…yes, I like John Cena (RAWR!) but, I really wish Santa would just bring us another camera (or, Ashton Kutcher, RAWR!) because, the kid put the other one down and now I can't find it, DAMMIT!

Stupid work!

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December 30, 2009
Four to the Teen, Baby!

Happy Fourteenth Birthday, Heather!

Today, you are fourteen and, well, like I told your sister Holly (in her birthday letter, last month) Holy Hannah Montana, the years are just flying by. No matter how hard I try to deny the fact that my two oldest girls are getting older (me too, DAMMIT!) time insists on slipping through my fingers, burrowing deeper into my chest and squeezing away a little piece of my heart, each year.

Remember yesterday, when everyone left us alone at the breakfast table and you and I talked about when you were little. How you cried a lot and never slept.

Me, too.

Except, you DID sleep in your car seat (a little) in our first minivan, you know, Daddy's Windstar (may it rest in peace) while I drove around town, in the middle of the night, through tears of frustration…both yours and mine.

I know now that, right from the beginning, you were developing a keen sense of empathy and was just hypersensitive to the world around you.

"I'm sorry, Momma!"

Still are.

"For what?"

It's like you know exactly how I'm feeling, or when to make daddy smile.

"Thinking about that makes me wanna cry."

[blank stare]

See what I mean?

"Soooo, you wanna go for a drive?"

Although, most folks would probably consider outwitting your parents at the dinner table, on a daily basis, as borderline brilliant — especially, to your siblings — I really do miss your knock-knock jokes.

"Just you and me, okay?"

I know how hard it is to be the middle child…sort of…literally, wedged between two sisters, having to share one bedroom, which you end up cleaning, by yourself, mostly and giving up the corner of the couch, so your baby brother could better reach his sippy cup.

"So what, mom STILL makes me use one, when I'm sick, too."

You were my little keeper of the peace; still are.

Then, all h-e-double-hockey-sticks broke loose and, by Thanksgiving, last year, we were all trying, real hard, to make YOU feel better, while you celebrated your 13th birthday, flat on your belly.

Nothing, could have prepared us for the long road ahead, right?

Then, it was mommy's turn and, well, making butt jokes during yet ANOTHER emergency surgery is more than appropriate, right?

Riiiiight.

It DID get better. You made the field hockey team. I survived your first game. Then, worse. You had one more emergency room visit.

"They really asked me some STUPID questions."

Oh yeah. I forgot about that.

"Like what?"

But, since SHE was the one to bring it up.

"Like, if I'm sexually active or not."

[grabs time by the cajones and squeezes, HARD!]

Aaaaand now, well, you ARE fourteen, one year post surgery and looking forward to joining your sis in high school, next year (DAMMIT!) not to mention, proving yourself to be the bravest and strongest kid I know, over and over again.

So, there's nothing much more I can say (without crying, again) besides, what I used to say, you know, when you were little:

"I love you more than the moon and the stars!"

Aaaaand, Momma's gonna sing (yeah, AGAIN!) ready?

[clears throat]

Happy Birthday, my Christmas Baby
You're fourteen, I can't believe it's true
But, I've just one wish on this special day…

I wish I were more like you!

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December 28, 2009