Tag: caring for elderly parents

  • Growing Old, It’s For the Birds

    This Full Bird House

    The kids and I took a ride to visit my folks on Sunday — Holly was scheduled to work this weekend and my husband Garth (not his real name) stayed behind to try and get some work done here at home — and, as soon as we walked into the kitchen, my mom began to show me some of the new tricks she learned during rehab:

    • She can reach her arm behind her back:  which, only a few short weeks ago, the pain of  attempting to do so would have caused her to pass out (me too)
    • She can cross both her arms in front of her:  see previous bullet
    • Oh, and watch this:  she grabbed her elbow and gestured in an "Up yours!" sort of way, Jersey style

    Mom stood there grinning like a school girl, after we whooped and wowed, as if she just finished showing off some super cool new cheer-leading routine and I half expected the woman to drop down into a split.

    "Wow, I am SO proud of you!"

    Aaaaaand, then it happened.

    Me:  What is up with ALL the birds?

    It was a weird sort of Freaky Friday moment, which started out innocently enough:  I looked out the window and, I swear to you, there had to be about two dozen birds hanging out, in and around the bird feeders.

    Mom:  I know your father just filled up the feeders, this morning.

    What IS it with senior citizens AND birds?

    Me:  But it's already half-empty!

    Honestly, my in-laws are the same way.  They'll eat a bowl of crackers soaked in warm milk…[blech!]…for dinner, but don't think twice about dropping some major bucks on a 50 lb. sack of gourmet bird food, they can barely lift.

    Me:  You know, those dumb birds don't know how good they have it.

    Aaaaand, that's when my father's bionic hearing kicked in. 

    Me:  I mean, they eat WAY better than you guys do.

    I was able to crack that last little ray of sunshine off before my dad finally limped his way into the kitchen.

    Dad:  Yeah, but they make your mother happy and I would pay anything for that.

    Aaaaaand, I had just been served up a lovely peace of humble pie (accented heavily with rolling r's and w's that sound more like v's) for dessert and, well, when did our lives go so crrrrrrriz-crrrrrrroz epple-zauze, eny-vays?!?

    Mom:  I think maybe she's right.

    Who?  Me?  Really?  I looked around to make sure no one else was standing in the kitchen, just in case.

    Mom:  Maybe it's time the birds went on a little diet.

    So, my parents decided it would be okay to feed them every OTHER day and, well, those dumb birds really don't know how good they have it.

    Dad:  Oh, and we picked up a strawberry short cake for the kids too.

    Notice how he said "for the kids" which is perfectly fine with me and not because I don't like strawberry short cake — it's my favorite.

    Me:  Sounds awesome, thanks!

    I was already sort of full of, you know, humble pie.

    Me:  I'll make the coffee.

    [one beat, two beats]

    Mom and Dad:  NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

    Heh…yeah, right…some things, however, NEVER change…including my inability to make a decent pot of coffee…damnit.

    Hope:  I'll do it!

    My ll year-old, on the other hand, makes an AWESOME pot of coffee and, well, good thing too.

    Hope:  Dad taught me how.

    Because my husband, Garth (NHRN) is going to have his hands full…I mean, he IS married to me…and I really don't care for the taste OR even the thought of warm milk…[blech!]…no matter WHAT my kids say.

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